C is for Calling
I have a theory about this calling thing.
I’m not convinced that the call is the same for both spouses when it comes to church leadership.
I think the calling of a pastor is so much more clear-cut. Often there’s a contract or some form of official agreement, there’s a title and a role with (fairly) explicit responsibilities. For the other half, it’s not the always the case.
All marriages, churches and callings are different. So I can only speak for myself. I’m not sure I feel called to be a Pastor’s wife, I’m not even sure if there is such a calling. The only calling I’ve even been sure of (apart from God), is my calling to Rich.
Now before anyone sets their hair on fire. I’m not barefoot and tied to my kitchen sink. The beloved is on constant bin, dishwasher and grocery shopping duty. And yesterday, as I was in agony with a stupid shoulder injury, the pastor preached two sermons and insisted on sorting lunch and tea. Regardless of his current title, I’m his priority. So this is not a 1950s ‘pipe and slippers’ situation.
There are things I can do. I get the opportunity to use my gifts regularly. I get to sing and talk and lead services; and make cake! (yummy poppyseed cake). Maybe part of my role is to lead by example and use the gifts God has given me, in the church.
As far as a ‘ministry calling’ goes, the only one I’m really sure of is the one to help him to be the best that he can be. Sometimes it’s about practical stuff, sometimes it’s about keeping the knuckle-head stuff out of his way. Most times, it’s standing back, and making room for him to read, study, prepare etc. After that, I’m not really sure what my calling is.
I have an unfulfilled maternal instinct that could run riot if I let it 🙂 Who knows where it might get a chance to flourish. I’m part of a great team of leaders and their other halves; and it’s a joy to work with them.
I’m know I am where I’m supposed to be and ultimately, I am called to follow Christ.
Surely there is no higher calling. 🙂
4 thoughts on “The A to Z of the Pastor’s Wife – C is for Calling”
A joint calling sounds wonderful. I was brought up a Catholic and I live in Catholic Spain. The clergy do not marry. It’s a pity. I’m sure a wife would greatly enhance a priest’s job. Well done 🙂
Sorry for the delay in replying. Thanks so much for popping by. I know my hubby would struggle on his own 🙂
Trying to sort out a calling in any part of life is hard! I’m glad you’ve found yours to be with your husband!
No higher calling indeed! Sounds like you are doing a fine job as “pastor’s wife,” too!